It amazes me how some talk about a missing parent to a child. As a child matures it makes that child wonder about your reasoning skills. Because, if you are saying you choose a person, and made a mistake, say once, but that child looks around and there are, say 4-9 of them altogether, then what is that saying about your reasoning skills? Or about other lessons you are trying to teach? You just can't say "your (missing parent) wasn't shit" (or other meanness) because that sticks with that child in their subconscious for life. As they grow, and learn, then begin to wonder, if half of me is them then what are you saying of me? Be careful of the words you use around a child, you chose to have them, they didn't choose to be born. So any nasty mean things you say and do to them as children, out of ignorance, is building your future hell, not theirs (unless after the age of reason they chose to repeat the behavior with another generation). Always show love around children. In all forms. They need to see it.